Discernment Counseling in San Antonio
San Antonio Discernment Counseling
For couples who are unsure about the future of their relationship, I facilitate a special process called Discernment Counseling. This is helpful when one couple wants to continue working on the relationship while the other wants to separate or divorce.
Discernment Counseling is a structured, short-term program that assists the couple in making the best decision for them: maintain the status quo, separate/divorce, or commit to 6-months couples counseling.
Can we do Discernment Counseling if we’re not married?
While much of the discernment literature mentions marriage and divorce, this process is also suitable for long-term, unmarried couples deciding to break up or not. The same concepts apply even if you’re not legally married.
Should I get divorced?
When you enter into a committed, romantic relationship, the partnership is like a freshly sprouted plant. Some relationships are fruit trees, some are flower bushes, some are vegetables, but they all have something in common — roots. In the beginning, there’s vibrant life in the roots which fosters growth, color, beauty, and life in the rest of the plant. The plant grows over the years and continues to blossom with new seasons.
Over time however, the plant suffers. Maybe it doesn’t get watered enough or it gets trampled on too many times. Whatever the cause, the plant is looking worse for the wear. It’s drooping or its leaves are wilting, and from the outside, the plant looks like a lost cause. You’re deciding if it’s time to count your losses and uproot the plant.
Is any of this sounding familiar? Does your relationship feel like a wilting plant and you’re not sure if it’s worth tending to anymore? You might want to consider discernment counseling.
Discernment counseling is a process in which to identify if your relationship still has life in its roots.
“It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, learn about what’s happened to your marriage, and look at your options for your marriage.”
— Creators of Discernment Counseling